Five ways to tell if someone is cheating on you

 

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Relationships and love are the center of our psychological well-being and happiness. When everything goes well in relationships, they provide happiness, support, and fulfillment. But when there is deception or dishonesty, it impacts our psychological well-being and happiness. Following are five red flags to detect deception in a relationship. Catching the red flags of an unhealthy or dishonest relationship before they compound will spare you heartache and emotional distress. In this blog, we will explore five significant red flags that indicate the individual is likely not being honest with you. These indicators do not operate by gender—these operate for everybody, no matter if you are dating a man or a woman. Let's begin.

1. They Agree with You on Everything

On the surface, it might seem divine to have someone who agrees with everything you say or do. It might, however, be a sign of insincerity rather than compatibility. Healthy relationships are founded on accepting differences, not agreeing to be the same in what you think and like.

Psychologists say no two people can be 100% compatible with each other. Real relationships come from respecting and understanding each other's individual perspectives. If somebody always reflects back your thoughts and never disagrees with you, perhaps they are covering up their true personality to create a false illusion in your head. This is called mirroring, and generally, people do this who aim to establish an artificial rapport. 

What to Watch For

Do they always say yes to you, even when your opinions contradict what they have previously stated?

Do they refuse to tell you what they think or desire?

Does it seem like they're working too hard to be "perfect" for you?

If so, consider whether they're being truthful or only saying what you wish to hear.

2. They Hide Things from You

Transparency is the basis of trust in any relationship. If your partner is evasive or secretive about something, it is a warning sign. For example, if they disappear without uttering a word or refuse to talk about where they have been, such a lack of transparency can destroy trust.

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Secrecy is also generally all about maintaining control of information and being in charge of the other person in a relationship. Not telling the other person, as relationship therapists put it, is emotional manipulation. It leaves one exposed and the other still in charge.

What to Watch Out For:

Do they avoid direct answers to questions about what they are doing or where they have been?

Do they fidget if you push them for information regarding their past or their private life?

Do they change the subject or deflect when some topics are mentioned?

If you feel that they're keeping something from you, trust your gut. Honesty is always the best policy in a healthy relationship.

3. They Keep You a Secret

If your partner is not presenting you to his/her family or friends, it is a sign that they are not serious about the relationship. There may be valid reasons for keeping a relationship secret (e.g., company policy), but keeping your existence a secret all the time is a red flag.

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Having a relationship on the down low is often a sign of fear of commitment or a desire to maintain emotional distance. It could also be a sign that they're not ready to expose their life to you fully yet. In some cases, it could be that they're keeping you away from another person, i.e., another suitor.

What to Watch Out For:

Do they avoid speaking about you on social media or bringing you along to meet close friends?

Do they make up excuses for failing to introduce you to their family or friends?

Do they drag their feet confessing their love to other individuals?

If they do not wish to share themselves with you, then it's time to second-guess why.

4. They Have Different Personalities

A partner who acts one way when you’re alone and another way in public is displaying inconsistent behavior. This could mean they’re wearing a “mask” to manipulate your perception of them.

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This is most often an indicator of narcissism or emotional immaturity. They are ill-at-ease beings themselves and use different personas as a tool for managing people's perception of them. Ultimately, this contradiction can create confusion and distrust within the relationship.

What to Watch For:

Are they very warm and loving towards you in the privacy of their own home but cold or distant in public?

Do they interact with you differently depending on who else is around?

Do you catch yourself thinking you're dealing with two different people?

If their behaviors are contradictory or manipulative, it's a reason to beware.

5. You Can't Say No to Them

A healthy relationship gives each of you the autonomy to communicate your boundary and say no without being punished. If your partner guilt-trips or manipulates you into a position you don't want to be in, it's a huge red flag.

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Such manipulation is more likely to have its roots in emotional blackmail. By guilt-tripping you or threatening to deprive you of the relationship, they control your actions. Eventually, this can result in low self-esteem and a sense of helplessness.

What to Watch Out For:

Do they become angry or guilt-trip you when you tell them no?

Do they make you feel like you owe them to meet their desires?

Do they threaten to break up with you if you don't comply with their desires?

If you notice you are losing the grip on your boundaries, then it is time to reconsider the relationship.

Last Thoughts: Trust Your Instincts

Even if these red flags can cause you to become aware of issues in a relationship, no one sign should ever be taken for granted. Individuals and relationships are complex, and people do change. But in the event you do happen to notice several red flags or you feel uncomfortable with your partner's behavior, it's important to listen to your instincts.

Our unconscious mind tends to be more attuned to dishonesty than our conscious mind. If something doesn't "feel" right, it's worth investigating why. To discount these feelings or rationalize them away is to invite prolonged emotional pain.

Take these steps: note your partner's behavior, speak the truth, and consider whether they make you feel good or not before promising a relationship. Real love is based on honesty, respect, and trust—never lies and manipulation. Getting to know such red flags is how you get to protect your heart and start a relationship that truly adds substance to your life.

If you liked this article, then share it with someone who will benefit from it. Remember, the sooner you recognize red flags, the fewer heartaches you'll miss out on and the love you will actually deserve.